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Tom OConnor
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  “The difference between a dream and a goal is a deadline.”
Napoleon Hill

   Facebook and Dignity
That shouldn’t be an oxymoron.

How much sharing is, as they say, TMI (too much information)?
Is it the former GSA Pacific Rim administrator posting a picture of himself in the bathtub with a glass of red wine during his scouting trip to Las Vegas? (It’s almost a party game deciding which aspect of this photo is the most disturbing one!) Is it Roseanne Cash (the famous singer’s daughter) tweeting to her 43,000 plus followers about the challenges in her marriage? Is it pictures of the fancy gourmet dinner your friend made last night that surely puts the rest of us to shame? Almost anything could qualify, depending on context and viewers.

We begin our morning prayers with the blessing uttered by the non-Jewish prophet, Bilaam, “How goodly are your tents O Jacob, your dwelling places, O Israel.” He wasn’t praising our camping skills or our artistic talents. What he noticed, the commentaries suggest, was the sense of modesty and privacy inherent in the structure of the community. No one’s door faced into anyone else’s home. What happened inside was not for sharing, wasn’t anyone else’s business, was private and sacred. A sense of dignity was preserved.
Nowadays, everywhere we look, the opposite is true. We’ve opened the doors and rolled up the shades, revealing all to the world outside – without a second’s thought or a moment’s sense of shame. No one stops to question whether it is appropriate.

How can we preserve our marriage if we let 43,000 strangers in on our struggles?
We’ve forgotten that our home and our family are something special, something to safeguard and preserve. We’ve stopped noticing that something precious has been lost with each further encroachment on our privacy.
The most egregious examples are the easiest to learn from. How can we preserve our marriage if we are willing to let 43,000 strangers in on our struggles? Not to mention the fact that in Jewish consciousness, embarrassing someone is like killing them. (Our jails today don’t have near enough room for all the guilty parties!)
How can we maintain a healthy relationship with our children if we reveal their foibles for the world to see – on our daily television show, newspaper column, or online blog?

And most importantly, how can we maintain our own sense of self-respect if all of our life experiences, all our innermost thoughts and goals along with every momentary impulse are expressed on our Facebook page? Facebook seems to have the dubious distinction of making exhibitionism and voyeurism socially acceptable.
Daniel Henninger of the Wall Street Journal suggests that we’ve lost all sense of discretion as well as many other crucial and valuable character traits (WSJ 4/26/12):
“Discretion, before its recent death, had many allies – judgment, common sense, prudence, reticence and the two better selfs, self-control and self-discipline.”

I would venture further. Discretion is an aspect of modesty. In the midst of serving the body, we’ve lost our souls. We’ve stopped thinking before we speak. We’ve ceased carefully examining our words before using them. We no longer worry about material excess or bodily indulgence. We’ve stopped trying to preserve our inner core. We’ve stopped noticing our inner core. When everything is public, as my husband would say, “There is no longer any there there.” We’ve lost touch with our souls. We’ve lost track of what’s truly important and of who matter’s the most

Apparently young couples are now negotiating social media rules – what is okay to share and what isn’t. This should be obvious but we’ve lost perspective. Traditionally, the more precious something is, the more we want to protect it – and vice-versa.
We live in an upside-down world where the most important personal details are revealed almost before we say hello – and frequently on national television.

But we don’t have to participate. We can take a step back. We can build some fences. We can try leaving Facebook and Twitter and Pinterest and all social media out of our marriages and personal lives. (I dare you!) We can build our inner world and have the confidence that it can withstand the buffeting of the outer one
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We shouldn’t post or tweet about our marriages. It coarsens and devalues this holy institution. It embarrasses our partners. And we shouldn’t post or tweet about ourselves. We should have too much self-respect and self-esteem to invade our own privacy in that way. If we could really exercise and promote this level of restraint, we would change society. True, some magazines might go out of business and some shows off the air but the public discourse would be on a higher level and we would all be able to rediscover our spiritual centers.

Our ancestors were on to something. We need goodly tents and dwelling places – not just for shelter, but in order to preserve our essential humanity and sense of self.

  Develop success from failures. 
Discouragement and failure are
stepping-stones to success.
~Dale Carnegie  

 

   Lag B’Omer & Gratitude

Tony Robbin’s secret to happiness and achieving success.
Years ago, someone gave me a Tony Robbins cd to listen to. I was excited to hear what one of the most inspirational people of modern times would have to say and how it could change my life for the better. He started his talk by saying that he has the secret to both happiness and success. If you follow his advice and begin each and every day of your life exactly as he prescribes, he can all but guarantee you will find yourself both happier, and achieving your goals and dreams.

I was very eager to hear what his secret is.
What Tony Robbins said is correct, but for me, and for you, and for Jewish 3 year olds around the world, it was nothing new. The secret to happiness and to achieving success, he said, is to start every day of your life by expressing gratitude. As soon as you wake up, before doing anything else, say thank you. Be grateful and appreciative for being alive, having a roof over your head, having your health if you are lucky, your family, etc.

He continued that it isn’t enough to think appreciatively, but you need to start your day by verbalizing and actually saying thank you out loud. If you do, the rest of your day is guaranteed to be successful and happy.

What Tony Robbins is teaching in the 21st century, Judaism has taught since its inception thousands of years ago. From an early age, we teach our children to wake up saying Modeh ani lefanecha, I am grateful to you God for the fact that I woke up, that I am alive to see another day, for the wonderful blessings in my life and for my relationship with You.
It has been inculcated within us from our youth that we don’t wake up feeling entitled, deserving and demanding. Rather, we wake up with a deep and profound sense of gratitude, appreciation and thanks.

In my experience, Tony Robbins is right. How we start our day has an incredible impact on how the rest of it will go. This week we will celebrate Lag B’Omer, the 33rd day of the Omer. Each day of the Omer is characterized by another kabbalistic attribute. Lag B’Omer is Hod sh’b’hod, the glory of glory, reflecting our appreciation of God’s greatness and glory. The Hebrew word hod can be understood as coming from the same word as hodu, or modeh, meaning thanks. Lag B’Omer is a day characterized as “thankfulness within thankfulness,” or a day to celebrate gratitude.

Lag B’Omer is a day characterized as “thankfulness within thankfulness,” or a day to celebrate gratitude.
The Chassam Sofer, Rav Moshe Sofer says that the miraculous manna that fell from Heaven began to descend on Lag B’Omer. On the first day, the manna was undoubtedly greeted with great enthusiasm and appreciation, but as time went on and there was an increasing expectation the heavenly bread would descend, it became much easier to take it for granted and to forget to be appreciative for it at all. Therefore Lag B’Omer is a time that we identify and say thank you for all of the blessings that regularly descend into our lives, but unfortunately, like the manna, that we take for granted.

It is so easy to fall into a sense of entitlement and to forget to be grateful. Why should I thank my children’s teachers? They’re just doing their job. Why should I be so appreciative to the waiter, or the custodian, or the stewardess? Isn’t that what they are supposed to do? When was the last time we said thank you to whomever cleans our dirty laundry? Do we express gratitude regularly to our spouse who shops, cooks dinner, or who worked all day to pay for dinner, or in some cases did both?

As we celebrate Lag B’Omer, let’s not just say modeh ani in the morning and then quickly transition to feelings of entitlement. Let’s remember to say thank you to the people who do extraordinary things in our lives. But even more importantly, let’s especially express gratitude to the people who do the ordinary things that make our lives so filled with blessing.
Published: May 8, 2012

  People will generally judge you by your actions,
God may also judge you by your intentions.
Anonymous

  Love is that condition in which
the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
~Robert A. Heinlein

  The Magic Of Love
 Love is like magic And it always will be.
For love still remains Life’s sweet mystery!!
Love works in ways That are wondrous and strange
 And there’s nothing in life That love cannot change!!

Love can transform
The most commonplace
Into beauty and splendor
And sweetness and grace.

Love is unselfish, Understanding and kind,
For it sees with its heart And not with its mind!!
Love is the answer That everyone seeks…
 Love is the language, That every heart speaks.

Love can’t be bought,
It is priceless and free,
Love, like pure magic,
Is life’s sweet mystery!!

– Helen Steiner Rice –

 

  Life has many twists and turns and sometimes what looks like a very bad day is just clearing the way for good things to come.
– J Kim Wright


  Champions keep playing until they get it right.
~Billie Jean King

  The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist trims the sails, tacks into the wind … and sails on.
~William Arthur Ward 

   If you believe in yourself and have courage, determination,  dedication, and
competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice for things that are worthwhile,

anything  can be done.
– Vince Lombardi  
…with a few edits

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On the Atlantic coast of Barbados …with a storm approaching

Thanks for the good you are doing today
and the prayers you say on this Memorial Day
For those who have gone in harms way on your behalf.

Move forward …resolute

and undaunted.

Tom

7 ideas and two articles

Tom OConnor
skmoltom2@aol.com


“Our attitudes control our lives.
Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad.
It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force.”
 
~ Tom Blandi


…if we make up our mind what we are going to make of our lives, then work hard toward that goal, we never lose — somehow we win out.”
~ Ronald Reagan


“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life;
not so much by what happens to you as by the way you look at what happens.”
~ John Homer Miller    …with a few edits


“Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life.”
~ Les Brown


Why is Israel So Happy?

The Jewish state ranked 14th on global Happiness Report. What’s its secret?

by Giulio Meotti

Israel ranked 14th in the United Nations’ first World Happiness Report. The list is headed by Denmark, Finland, Norway and the Netherlands, the paradises of political correctness, welfare, anti-war, ultra-liberal and anti-nationalistic feelings, beacons which, according to the Global Peace Index, topped the list of the most “peaceful” places in the world.

So how can we explain the happiness of Israel, the only civilized country under mortal danger, the only nation without recognized borders and globally selected to be an emblem of evil?

To people who don’t live in Israel, this is a mystery. Many Israelis probably can’t figure it out, either. How is it possible that a population living under a perpetual emotional strain and ghettoizing itself behind new Maginot lines is so happy?

How can the Jews be happy when Iran is going nuclear and threatening to wipe them off the map? How can they be happy when the Arabs are firing rockets every day at civilians in Ashkelon, Beersheba, Ashdod and Sderot? What are the sources of the happiness of the only UN member condemned to death and boycotted all over the world?

Israel is much happier than all the European countries that experienced their last war six decades ago. The Jewish state’s population exceeds 7.5 million, nine times that of 1948, the year of the state’s creation. Israelis are happy because they succeeded demographically; considering the Diaspora’s low birth rates and high assimilation rates, it may not be long before most of the world’s Jews will be Israelis.

Despite Jewish heroism and Israeli collectivism giving way to Western individualism, self-criticism and frivolous hedonism, Israeli happiness is much more than the American dream of a large house and a nice car. It lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning, “a nation like all other nations” but also “a light unto the nations.”

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Belief in God

Israelis, which have one of the longest life expectancies of any nation in the world, are happy because their country has a history of scintillating enlightenment, with the highest production of scientific publications per capita in the world, more museums per capita and the highest worldwide publication of new books. In a war-ravaged country like Israel, the past few years saw five Israeli Nobel Prize winners.

Another reason is economic success. No other industrialized country does it better, especially for a nation that doesn’t have natural resources and has a population roughly half of Belgium’s. Israel’s high-tech industry is flourishing, making the country known as “start-up nation.”

While Israel’s social fabric is deeply divided between ultra-Orthodox Jews and “Hellenistic” Israelis, nationalists and leftists, two-thirds of Israelis believe in God, therefore maintaining the hope and feeling that there is higher meaning and purpose to their lives. There is also the attachment to the Jewish land, while love for one’s land is a nationalistic taboo in the West.

Overall, Israel’s population is very resilient. A new governmental study just found that Intifada-era violence did nothing to affect Israel’s national morale. Israelis are also happy because they know that Dimona and the IDF are there to protect them, even if the army lost some of its famous deterrence.

Finally, there is the most important reason why Israeli happiness is an enchanting and heartening mystery for all free men. When comparing the fertility rate to the suicide rate, one can see the proportion of people who choose to create new life against the proportion who choose to destroy their own. This is why the Jews will ultimately win a centennial war against an enemy ready to sacrifice all of its children in order to throw all Israelis into the sea.

In Israel, the celebrations of life are far more numerous than the memories of death. That’s Israel’s secret for happiness: it’s a lighthouse of life on the border between survival and destruction. Ultimately, life will prevail over death.

This article originally appeared on ynetnews.com


The important thing in the Olympic Games is not winning but taking part.
 The essential thing in life is not conquering but fighting well. — Baron de Coubertin, The Olympic Creed

Never Fight a Land War in Asia

March 1, 2011 |

Stratfor

U.S. Secretary of Defense Robert Gates, speaking at West Point, said last year that “Any future defense secretary who advises the president to again send a big American land army into Asia or into the Middle East or Africa should have his head examined.” In saying this, Gates was repeating a dictum laid down by Douglas MacArthur after the Korean War, who urged the United States to avoid land wars in Asia. Given that the United States has fought four major land wars in Asia since World War II — Korea, Vietnam, Afghanistan and Iraq — none of which had ideal outcomes, it is useful to ask three questions: First, why is fighting a land war in Asia a bad idea? Second, why does the United States seem compelled to fight these wars? And third, what is the alternative that protects U.S. interests in Asia without large-scale military land wars?

The Hindrances of Overseas Wars

Let’s begin with the first question, the answer to which is rooted in demographics and space. The population of Iraq is currently about 32 million. Afghanistan has a population of less than 30 million. The U.S. military, all told, consists of about 1.5 million active-duty personnel (plus 980,000 in the reserves), of whom more than 550,000 belong to the Army and about 200,000 are part of the Marine Corps. Given this, it is important to note that the United States strains to deploy about 200,000 troops at any one time in Iraq and Afghanistan, and that many of these troops are in support rather than combat roles. The same was true in Vietnam, where the United States was challenged to field a maximum of about 550,000 troops (in a country much more populous than Iraq or Afghanistan) despite conscription and a larger standing army. Indeed, the same problem existed in World War II.

When the United States fights in the Eastern Hemisphere, it fights at great distances, and the greater the distance, the greater the logistical cost. More ships are needed to deliver the same amount of material, for example. That absorbs many troops. The logistical cost of fighting at a distance is that it diverts numbers of troops (or requires numbers of civilian personnel) disproportionate to the size of the combat force.

Regardless of the number of troops deployed, the U.S. military is always vastly outnumbered by the populations of the countries to which it is deployed. If parts of these populations resist as light-infantry guerrilla forces or employ terrorist tactics, the enemy rapidly swells to a size that can outnumber U.S. forces, as in Vietnam and Korea. At the same time, the enemy adopts strategies to take advantage of the core weakness of the United States — tactical intelligence. The resistance is fighting at home. It understands the terrain and the culture. The United States is fighting in an alien environment. It is constantly at an intelligence disadvantage. That means that the effectiveness of the native forces is multiplied by excellent intelligence, while the effectiveness of U.S. forces is divided by lack of intelligence.

The United States compensates with technology, from space-based reconnaissance and air power to counter-battery systems and advanced communications. This can make up the deficit but only by massive diversions of manpower from ground-combat operations. Maintaining a helicopter requires dozens of ground-crew personnel. Where the enemy operates with minimal technology multiplied by intelligence, the United States compensates for lack of intelligence with massive technology that further reduces available combat personnel. Between logistics and technological force multipliers, the U.S. “point of the spear” shrinks. If you add the need to train, relieve, rest and recuperate the ground-combat forces, you are left with a small percentage available to fight.

The paradox of this is that American forces will win the engagements but may still lose the war. Having identified the enemy, the United States can overwhelm it with firepower. The problem the United States has is finding the enemy and distinguishing it from the general population. As a result, the United States is well-suited for the initial phases of combat, when the task is to defeat a conventional force. But after the conventional force has been defeated, the resistance can switch to methods difficult for American intelligence to deal with. The enemy can then control the tempo of operations by declining combat where it is at a disadvantage and initiating combat when it chooses.

The example of the capitulation of Germany and Japan in World War II is frequently cited as a model of U.S. forces defeating and pacifying an opposing nation. But the Germans were not defeated primarily by U.S. ground troops. The back of the Wehrmacht was broken by the Soviets on their own soil with the logistical advantages of short supply lines. And, of course, Britain and numerous other countries were involved. It is doubtful that the Germans would have capitulated to the Americans alone. The force the United States deployed was insufficient to defeat Germany. The Germans had no appetite for continuing a resistance against the Russians and saw surrendering to the Americans and British as sanctuary from the Russians. They weren’t going to resist them. As for Japan, it was not ground forces but air power, submarine warfare and atomic bombs that finished them — and the emperor’s willingness to order a surrender. It was not land power that prevented resistance but air and sea power, plus a political compromise by MacArthur in retaining and using the emperor. Had the Japanese emperor been removed, I suspect that the occupation of Japan would have been much more costly. Neither Germany nor Japan are examples in which U.S. land forces compelled capitulation and suppressed resistance.

The problem the United States has in the Eastern Hemisphere is that the size of the force needed to occupy a country initially is much smaller than the force needed to pacify the country. The force available for pacification is much smaller than needed because the force the United States can deploy demographically without committing to total war is simply too small to do the job — and the size needed to do the job is unknown.

U.S. Global Interests

The deeper problem is this: The United States has global interests. While the Soviet Union was the primary focus of the United States during the Cold War, no power threatens to dominate Eurasia now, and therefore no threat justifies the singular focus of the United States. In time of war in Iraq and Afghanistan, the United States must still retain a strategic reserve for other unanticipated contingencies. This further reduces the available force for combat.

Some people argue that the United States is insufficiently ruthless in prosecuting war, as if it would be more successful without political restraints at home. The Soviets and the Nazis, neither noted for gentleness, were unable to destroy the partisans behind German lines or the Yugoslav resistance, in spite of brutal tactics. The guerrilla has built-in advantages in warfare for which brutality cannot compensate.

Given all this, the question is why the United States has gotten involved in wars in Eurasia four times since World War II. In each case it is obvious: for political reasons. In Korea and Vietnam, it was to demonstrate to doubting allies that the United States had the will to resist the Soviets. In Afghanistan, it was to uproot al Qaeda. In Iraq, the reasons are murkier, more complex and less convincing, but the United States ultimately went in, in my opinion, to convince the Islamic world of American will.

The United States has tried to shape events in the Eastern Hemisphere by the direct application of land power. In Korea and Vietnam, it was trying to demonstrate resolve against Soviet and Chinese power. In Afghanistan and Iraq, it was trying to shape the politics of the Muslim world. The goal was understandable but the amount of ground force available was not. In Korea, it resulted in stalemate; in Vietnam, defeat. We await the outcome in Iraq and Afghanistan, but given Gates’ statement, the situation for the United States is not necessarily hopeful.

In each case, the military was given an ambiguous mission. This was because a clear outcome — defeating the enemy — was unattainable. At the same time, there were political interests in each. Having engaged, simply leaving did not seem an option. Therefore, Korea turned into an extended presence in a near-combat posture, Vietnam ended in defeat for the American side, and Iraq and Afghanistan have turned, for the time being, into an uncertain muddle that no reasonable person expects to end with the declared goals of a freed and democratic pair of countries.

Problems of Strategy

There are two problems with American strategy. The first is using the appropriate force for the political mission. This is not a question so much of the force as it is of the mission. The use of military force requires clarity of purpose; otherwise, a coherent strategy cannot emerge. Moreover, it requires an offensive mission. Defensive missions (such as Vietnam and Korea) by definition have no terminal point or any criteria for victory. Given the limited availability of ground combat forces, defensive missions allow the enemy’s level of effort to determine the size of the force inserted, and if the force is insufficient to achieve the mission, the result is indefinite deployment of scarce forces.

Then there are missions with clear goals initially but without an understanding of how to deal with Act II. Iraq suffered from an offensive intention ill suited to the enemy’s response. Having destroyed the conventional forces of Iraq, the United States was unprepared for the Iraqi response, which was guerrilla resistance on a wide scale. The same was true in Afghanistan. Counterinsurgency is occupation warfare. It is the need to render a population — rather than an army — unwilling and incapable of resisting. It requires vast resources and large numbers of troops that outstrip the interest. Low-cost counter-insurgency with insufficient forces will always fail. Since the United States uses limited forces because it has to, counterinsurgency is the most dangerous kind of war for the United States. The idea has always been that the people prefer the U.S. occupation to the threats posed by their fellow countrymen and that the United States can protect those who genuinely do prefer the former. That may be the idea, but there is never enough U.S. force available.

Another model for dealing with the problem of shaping political realities can be seen in the Iran-Iraq war. In that war, the United States allowed the mutual distrust of the two countries to eliminate the threats posed by both. When the Iraqis responded by invading Kuwait, the United States responded with a massive counter with very limited ends — the reconquest of Kuwait and the withdrawal of forces. It was a land war in Asia designed to defeat a known and finite enemy army without any attempt at occupation.

The problem with all four wars is that they were not wars in a conventional sense and did not use the military as militaries are supposed to be used. The purpose of a military is to defeat enemy conventional forces. As an army of occupation against a hostile population, military forces are relatively weak. The problem for the United States is that such an army must occupy a country for a long time, and the U.S. military simply lacks the ground forces needed to occupy countries and still be available to deal with other threats.

By having an unclear mission, you have an uncertain terminal point. When does it end? You then wind up with a political problem internationally — having engaged in the war, you have allies inside and outside of the country that have fought with you and taken risks with you. Withdrawal leaves them exposed, and potential allies will be cautious in joining with you in another war. The political costs spiral and the decision to disengage is postponed. The United States winds up in the worst of all worlds. It terminates not on its own but when its position becomes untenable, as in Vietnam. This pyramids the political costs dramatically.

Wars need to be fought with ends that can be achieved by the forces available. Donald Rumsfeld once said, “You go to war with the Army you have. They’re not the Army you might want or wish to have at a later time.” I think that is a fundamental misunderstanding of war. You do not engage in war if the army you have is insufficient. When you understand the foundations of American military capability and its limits in Eurasia, Gates’ view on war in the Eastern Hemisphere is far more sound than Rumsfeld’s.

The Diplomatic Alternative

The alternative is diplomacy, not understood as an alternative to war but as another tool in statecraft alongside war. Diplomacy can find the common ground between nations. It can also be used to identify the hostility of nations and use that hostility to insulate the United States by diverting the attention of other nations from challenging the United States. That is what happened during the Iran-Iraq war. It wasn’t pretty, but neither was the alternative.

Diplomacy for the United States is about maintaining the balance of power and using and diverting conflict to manage the international system. Force is the last resort, and when it is used, it must be devastating. The argument I have made, and which I think Gates is asserting, is that at a distance, the United States cannot be devastating in wars dependent on land power. That is the weakest aspect of American international power and the one the United States has resorted to all too often since World War II, with unacceptable results. Using U.S. land power as part of a combined arms strategy is occasionally effective in defeating conventional forces, as it was with North Korea (and not China) but is inadequate to the demands of occupation warfare. It makes too few troops available for success, and it does not know how many troops might be needed.

This is not a policy failure of any particular U.S. president. George W. Bush and Barack Obama have encountered precisely the same problem, which is that the forces that have existed in Eurasia, from the Chinese People’s Liberation Army in Korea to the Taliban in Afghanistan, have either been too numerous or too agile (or both) for U.S. ground forces to deal with. In any war, the primary goal is not to be defeated. An elective war in which the criteria for success are unclear and for which the amount of land force is insufficient must be avoided. That is Gates’ message. It is the same one MacArthur delivered, and the one Dwight Eisenhower exercised when he refused to intervene in Vietnam on France’s behalf. As with the Monroe Doctrine, it should be elevated to a principle of U.S. foreign policy, not because it is a moral principle but because it is a very practical one.


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Effort and courage are good but one also needs  purpose and direction. ~John F. Kennedy   …with a few edits

   If you believe in yourself and have courage, determination,  dedication, anything  can be done.
– Vince Lombardi

A story and 8 ideas

A story and 8 ideas
Collected by

Tom OConnor
skmoltom2@aol.com

One child’s determination and the kindness of a stranger.

A true story.

Abraham Naymark was 10 years old when his family escaped from Germany in 1934.

Germany to Czechoslovakia, Czechoslovakia to Hungary and finally Hungary to Yugoslavia…

In Zagreb there was no shortage of children trying to help their families make ends meet. Every restaurant, movie house and train station was rife with rag-dressed waifs fighting for a spot to beg for pennies.

But young Abe was already too proud to beg. He wanted to be a real businessman.

Young Abe was too proud to beg. He wanted to be a real businessman.

With this goal in mind, he took the small valise his mother had used to carry the family’s toiletries across Europe and scavenged around the neighborhood searching for any items of potential worth. He found a fine winter collection of used brushes, soaps, small containers, shoelaces, picture frames and various other bits and pieces, cleaned them as best he could and put them all into the valise.

He told his parents he was going out to sell door to door so he could help ease his father’s financial burden. While they were touched by his intentions, they couldn’t hide their skepticism. They decided to indulge him and gave him their blessing.

Every morning he would polish his inventory, pack the case and make himself as presentable as possible. His clothes were too small and his shoes worn through. But with his hair carefully combed, face washed and valise in hand, he marched out the door each day full of enthusiasm.

He had no doubt at all he would succeed in selling his goods and give his father a lot of satisfaction.

Perseverance

Winter in Zagreb, 1934. The streets were frozen and no one was particularly keen to open their doors and let in the cold – or a cocky little 10-year-old.  Abe was not deterred.

For two months his efforts met with moderate success. Some people were amused by this young entrepreneur and bought what they could afford. Others simply laughed at him, ruffled his hair and wished him luck in his “business.”

He persevered, never doubting it was just a matter of time before he would hit the jackpot

He could barely speak or understand Serbo-Croat but as he walked down yet another residential street, it occurred to him to search for large shops and businesses with Jewish names. He suspected a Jew might have more sympathy for a fellow Jewish immigrant and would more likely to purchase his wares

He strode down the main street in Zagreb and an enormous department store towered high above him. Shivering uncontrollably under his threadbare winter coat, he stretched his neck to look up at the bright multicolored sign on the front of the store. It was definitely a Jewish name. And there was also a mezuzah on the door.

This was it. He shuddered from cold and fear.

Would the owner of such a huge store even consider taking a moment from his busy day to see a scruffy 10-year-old? Or would he be thrown out of the store for having the audacity to request a meeting with such an important man?
Young Abe Naymark shook off the doubts, took a deep breath, walked purposefully through the front door, and discovered the most elegant and attractive department store he had ever seen in his life. He had no idea places like this even existed.

He stood amazed at the extravagance, the décor, the luxuriousness. Then he looked at his valise…
Racks of men’s suits running along one entire wall. A range of elegant women’s clothing across another wall. Tables and shelves upon shelves of household goods decoratively displayed in the middle of the store.
He stood amazed at the extravagance, the décor, the luxuriousness.
He looked at his valise…
His comical appearance distinguished him from the rest of the clientele and immediately attracted the attention of one of the store assistants.

“What are you doing here, young man?” he asked, making no effort to hide his disdain.
Abe did his best to stand up straighter and appear more confident.
“I…I…want…want…to see the owner of this store please,” he sputtered.
His fear was growing by the minute but he was determined to do what he had to do. He was going to show his goods to the owner of this glittering palace.
“The owner is a very busy man. He does not have time to meet with little children. Let me walk you to the door. Perhaps another time.”
Abe’s heart sank but he didn’t move.

“Come along young man, I’ve got a lot of work to do. I can’t stand here chatting with you all morning.”
Abe couldn’t think of anything to say that might persuade the man and he reluctantly began to shuffle towards the exit.
Suddenly, from nearly halfway across the store, he heard a man’s deep voice.
“Just a moment there, my friend.”
Abe stopped dead in his tracks.

A very tall, thin man with a dark beard and small wire-rimmed glasses walked towards him.
Abe stopped dead in his tracks. “I am the owner of this store. What do you have in that case over there?”
The man was dressed in a navy pinstriped suit and a light blue tie. His shoes were brightly polished. Years later, Abe would relive this moment many times, seeing his reflection in the sparkling shine of the man’s shoes.

“I am the owner of this store. What do you have in that case over there? I might be interested to see what you’re carrying. That is, if the items are for sale of course,” he added, with a twinkle in his eye.
With a defeated huff, the employee who had been trying to escort Abe out walked away.
Scared this friendly man might change his mind, Abe quickly opened his valise. The man held each item in his hand as if to examine it before asking its price and returning it to its place.
When he had finished checking Abe’s entire stock, he looked him in the eye and said, “Wait right here young man.”

Moments later he returned with a check. “Please tell me how much you want for all your goods,” he said in very businesslike fashion.Abe was stunned. He was rather unfamiliar with the Yugoslavian currency but came up with some outrageous amount.

He was almost embarrassed to say it aloud but the man wrote out a check for the full amount! The owner of this commercial empire had bought his entire business.
Thanking him profusely and trembling with excitement, he turned to the exit with check in hand. He couldn’t wait to show his father what a great salesman he was.
But as he reached the door, Abe heard the deep voice calling him again.
“Young man! Wait! You forgot something.”
He turned around to see the man coming to him carrying his valise with all the merchandise still inside.
“I believe this is yours,” he said gently.

Abe didn’t understand.
“But it’s yours now, Sir. You paid for it all,” he replied, refusing to take it.
The man changed the subject. “Do you have any brothers or sisters?”
“I’m the youngest of eight,” Abe answered, hoping that was what he wanted to hear.
The man in the shiny shoes smiled broadly.
“Listen carefully my boy. Take your goods back home. All I want is that you tell your father to come here first thing tomorrow morning. Do you understand? This is very important. Now hurry home. I will be waiting for your father when I open the store at nine tomorrow.”

Still shocked and not really understanding what interest this man could have in his father, Abe left for home with his valise in one hand and a check in the other.
He raced through the icy streets tightly holding the folded check in his hand. The feel of the paper was the only thing that stopped him thinking he had imagined the morning’s events.
The cold and the wind could not chill the warm feeling now burning through his bones.

A Surprise Offer
When he reached their apartment, Abe burst through the front door shouting, “Father! Father! Where are you? You won’t believe what happened to me today!”

Wolf Naymark had to force him to calm down as he excitedly related his adventures.
“But why do you think he wants to meet with me? Did you tell him anything about me?”
“No Father. He just asked how many siblings I have.”

The Naymarks spent the rest of the evening guessing what this mysterious department store owner might want with their father.
“Perhaps he wants to give you a job, Wolf,” suggested his mother. “This stranger must have realized that if a 10-year-old boy is trying to earn money for his family, his father must be in dire need of employment.”
They spent a restless night tossing and turning in their beds. The next day, Wolf and Abe both awoke with the sun. Wolf, dressed in his finest – which wasn’t really fine by any standard – followed his son’s directions to the store while Abe and his mother stayed home, trying to pass the time. It felt like an eternity.
Two hours later the door opened…
“Don’t keep us in suspense! Tell us what happened!” Abe’s mother pleaded, with all the children echoing her impatience.

Wolf Naymark smiled mysteriously. It was a smile they had never seen before. The smile of a man who had just been told his life’s dream was about to come true.

Hundreds of thousands were seeking refuge but no more than 15,000 Jews were allowed to enter the country.
The owner of the department store was an officer of the Jewish Federation. The Jewish Federation was the single agency responsible for issuing Palestine immigration certificates to a limited amount of Jewish families. Each certificate was allocated to one family and no more than 15,000 Jews were allowed to enter the country at that time. Since hundreds of thousands – if not more – were seeking refuge, these certificates were nearly impossible to come by.

When the department store owner asked Abe how many siblings he had, he had been delighted to hear he was the youngest of eight with the five youngest still living with their parents.
As far as the Jewish Federation was concerned, the Naymark family was the perfect candidate for the certificate. They could not have agreed more.
The man knew – as they did – that once their Yugoslavian visas expired they would be sent back to Germany. They would have been doomed, sent to Jewish labor camps… or worse.

The Vow

Two days later, a messenger knocked at the door carrying a large manila envelope. The Naymark family gathered round their father as he opened the treasure. The coveted emigration certificate, six freight train tickets to Salonika and six tickets for a passenger boat from Salonika to Palestine.

Not only had the shiny-shoed angel secured the certificate and all the necessary papers, he had paid for their train and boat fare as well. This was no small expense.

Abe smiled as he saw tears of gratitude running down his parents’ cheeks. Even at his young age, he understood the magnitude of this stranger’s generosity and made himself a vow.
When he grew up he would do whatever it took to be in a position to offer help to someone in need.
Now 88 and a full time philanthropist, Abe Naymark has certainly kept his vow.

Despite a life full of excitement, adventure and remarkable achievement in his professional career, his greatest pleasure and satisfaction is helping other people, whether through donations to hospitals, universities, synagogues or other worthy causes.

As he says, “I can proudly say that helping others in a meaningful way has been the most important thing I have ever done.”

And the angel smiles.

Adapted from “From Travail to Triumph: The Remarkable Life of Abraham Naymark”, soon to be published by Ventures Press. To reserve your copy of “From Travail to Triumph” please send an email to dverbov@014.net.il) 
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“At twenty years of age stronger will reigns; at thirty, brighter wit;
and at forty, better judgment.”

        – Benjamin Franklin

 

“Motivation is like food for the brain.

You cannot get enough in one sitting.
It needs continual and regular top up’s.”
~ Peter Davies

 

“What is the recipe for successful achievement? To my mind there are just four essential ingredients:

1.Choose a career you love,
2. give it the best there is in you,
3. seize your opportunities,and
4. be a member of the team.”

~ Benjamin F. Fairless

 

“Before going to bed every night, tear a page from the calendar, and remark, “there goes another day of my life, never to return, and you will become more aware of the value of time.”

~ A. B. Zu Tavern   …with a few edits

 

Lost wealth may be replaced by industry, lost knowledge by study, lost health by temperance or medicine, but lost time is gone forever.”

~ Samuel Smiles

 

“Your goals, minus your doubts, equals your reality.”

~ Ralph Marston 

   If you believe in yourself and have courage, determination,  dedication,
and competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice for things that are worthwhile,
anything  can be done.
– Vince Lombardi
  
…with a few edits

 

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and the prayers you are saying today 
Particularly the prayers for those going in harms way on your behalf.

Move forward …resolute and undaunted.

Tom O’Connor

 

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Overview of URCS, the Uniform Rail Costing System

Overview of URCS, the Uniform Rail Costing System

 

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Rail Industry Overview and Trend

Snavely King CSCMP Rail Industry Analysis (condensed)

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Indiana Medicaid

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Mediation for Railroad Support

Along with several railroad Presidents, the President of NITL and the Chairman of the STB, Tom O’Connor is quoted in this Traffic World article, advocating railroad support for mediation by the Surface Transportation Board.


New NS chief to face challenges

By John Gallagher
Traffic World
October 7, 2005

When Norfolk Southern recently named its Atlanta office building after Chairman, President and CEO David Goode, it marked a turning point for an old industry whose newest leaders will face challenges not seen in 50 years, according to this report by Traffic World magazine.

Goode, who took the NS reins in 1992, led the railroad through a period of economic downturns that required the railroad to ratchet back its rate of investment to meet lackluster demand. But Charles “Wick” Moorman, 52, who will take over as Goode’s successor Nov. 1, will be trying to satisfy demand for space on his system that is so high that NS and the rest of the rail industry can use price to adjust the amount of business they take on.

“For railroad CEOs in the past, the principal question was how to get more business on their systems,” said Surface Transportation Board Chairman Roger Nober. “Now the question is how to get the most valuable business on the railroad while maintaining the emphasis on service, costs, inventory and supply.”

Moorman and other members of the industry’s “new guard” — namely Union Pacific Railroad President Jim Young, 52, who’s expected to succeed Chairman Dick Davidson; Mike Ward, 55, who rose quickly through the ranks at CSX to become chairman in 2003, and BNSF Railway’s Matt Rose, who at 46 is the youngest railroad chairman — are facing an industry short on capacity while being pushed to load increasing amounts of freight.

Deregulation of the rail industry has been a significant factor in forming today’s rail landscape. After 25 years of declining rates and railroads struggling to generate enough revenue to justify more investment, it now seems most railroads will make enough money this year to become “revenue adequate” in the eyes of the STB. They’re burgeoning on a level of profitability not seen in decades.

“The biggest change is that the railroads are faced with traffic growth, which hasn’t been an industry driver for several generations,” said Henry Posner III, chairman of Railroad Development Corp., a Pittsburgh-based short line operating company. “It takes a different type of manager to deal with that, or at least a focus on different skills than in the past.”

Posner says the railroads’ focus has been shifting from the operations side of the business to sales and marketing — “from cost control to the proper allocation of capacity coupled with selective investment in new capacity,” he says.

“This has been underway for a long time, but the pace has accelerated dramatically in view of the capacity constraints in the last half decide. Rail executives now need a combination of marketing and financial skills, because they have two choices: ration capacity by increasing price, or invest in more capacity. Both are based on the market, not rail operations.”

Such skills have become more the norm among top rail executives — or those expected to get there. CSX’s Ward and UP’s Young both have strong financial backgrounds. BNSF’s Rose, who majored in marketing and minored in logistics, worked in the trucking industry before getting into railroads. He has led what was has been considered a progressive charge in the rail industry to accept more government money through public-private partnerships to help fund capacity expansion. Canadian Pacific Railway Chief Operating Officer Fred Green, considered by many to be the successor to CP President and CEO Rob Ritchie, has presided over both sales and marketing.

Like UP’s Davidson, Canadian National Railway President and CEO Hunter Harrison spent the early part of his career as a brakeman. But Harrison has also been an early and aggressive advocate of scheduled railroading, a concept he began rolling out on CN in 1998 which has proven critical in right-sizing rail networks to accommodate excess demand. Other railroads have since felt compelled to adopt varying levels of scheduled operating systems to adjust to the current operating environment.

NS’s Moorman, who currently serves as president, was senior vice president of corporate planning and services from 2003 to 2004. But his background before that included a strong emphasis on technology. He was president of NS’s Thoroughbred Technology and Telecommunications business from 1999 to 2004 and earlier was information technology vice president at the railroad.

Moorman will take over a railroad that generated more than $7 billion in revenue for the first time last year, and improved its operating ratio, a key measure of railroad efficiency, to 76.7 percent, the best in six years.

Last year, NS set record revenue in coal, intermodal and general merchandise. Intermodal revenue increased 24 percent on a volume increase of 17 percent or about 425,000 loads. Rail business grew 15 percent for international traffic, 21 percent in domestic, 15 percent in premium and 8 percent for Triple Crown Services, its intermodal trailer service.

“NS is a good example of a railroad with a strong culture that has historically been operations driven, but has been able to make the transition to a market-driven railroad largely without major and dramatic changes to the organization,” Posner said. “In contrast, BNSF always had been market driven, so it has been relatively easier for them to adjust to the new environment.”

Posner and others believe corporate culture plays a significant role in a company’s ability to adjust to a changing marketplace. UP, which has had a reputation in the rail industry as being slow to change, has provided evidence that the new leadership is willing to dust off that image. Earlier this year, railroads in Houston, principally UP, were assailed by city officials for trains left blocking at-grade rail crossings. In the past, railroads’ attitudes towards these issues might have been that, while such things are unfortunate, they’re part of the railroad business.

But UP management, led by Young, responded by opening a high-level dialogue with city officials that led UP to change its operational protocols in ways that have eliminated the problem.

“It was an example of UP realizing there’s value in addressing community concerns,” said a government official familiar with the situation but who declined to be identified. “That’s a positive change for the industry and one that will increasingly be required of railroad management.”

While the latest group of railroad CEOs enjoy record profits in an industry used to crying poor to Wall Street and federal regulators, their customers are finding it increasing difficult to adjust to an environment that requires being more proactive with their carriers in order to get good service.

“In the past you could leverage modes or carriers to hold down costs — those days are over,” said National Industrial Transportation League President John Ficker. “Now shippers have to work harder with their carriers to assure that the value they get for moving their goods with them is commensurate with the price they pay.”

Tom O’Connor, a principal at Snavely King, a Washington-based economic consulting firm, does not advocate increased regulation but does advocate more rail-to-rail competition that some shippers say would also lead to better service.

“Deregulation has generally performed well, and the additional freedoms the railroads have enjoyed have been helpful,” O’Connor said. “I would not advocate re-regulation of railroad pricing in general, but I do see the repeated occurrence of very aggressive pricing in situations where the railroad perceives that the shipper doesn’t have a competitive alternative.”

To help solve the problem, O’Connor says railroad management should support the STB providing mediation in rate case disputes. “I think it’s important for the new breed of railroad CEOs to recognize that there’s still a valid role for the STB to play in resolving disputes that, if left unresolved, could draw them into prolonged litigation or result in legislation that they’d find even less appealing.”

Moorman said naming a building after Goode was a “gesture of appreciation” from NS employees. “The fact is that David’s contributions will far outlive bricks and mortar,” he said. “His focus on making rail a dependable and sought-after transportation partner has helped shape Norfolk Southern and the rail industry for the new century.”

With strong evidence that infrastructure will continue to lag behind demand in the foreseeable future, the question becomes how far the railroads will be willing to go to assure that profitability remains strong while at the same time avoiding alienating their customers.

“Railroads need to behave more like 21st century service providers and less like old line utilities,” Nober said. “They will have a difficult balance to maintain: that of a private business but one that is also regulated and accountable to the public.”

(The preceding report was published by Traffic World magazine.)
October 7, 2005

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Tom O’Connor’s testimony at the STB in the Grenada Railway line abandonment case in Mississippi

Tom O’Connor’s testimony was filed on October 27, 2011 at the Surface Transportation board (STB) on the Grenada Railway line abandonment case in Mississippi; see below.

The testimony by Tom O’Connor reflects work by the Snavely King team, Kim Hillenbrand, John Legieza, Ron Bowes and our two field engineers, Chet Rhodes and Carl Rode.

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